Let me guess. You are wondering why your cat favors your husband and not you. It’s a question that keeps bothering every pet parent whose cat chose her spouse over her. You own a cat, and it seems to enjoy spending more time with your spouse. But with you, only sometimes, and hardly even that. And you’ve tried everything possible to be your pet’s favorite. But nothing seems to be working. So, you can’t help but wonder: Why does my cat favor my husband? Is this me? And what can be done to change that…
Here’s what you need to know:
Cats favor people they trust and are attached to. When married couples jointly own a cat, the cat can favor one spouse over the other. Most times, cats adore the spouse they bond with. Usually, this bond is formed with the person that respects your pet’s personal space and knows how to communicate with her. Cats want someone to play with, someone to clean and make their litter box, and they want food! Have you done all of this? There are also times they prefer to be alone. If you don’t understand this about your pet, but your husband does, your cat will favor the one who does like your husband.
Let’s try and see in more detail about this behavior and what can be done to change it.
Usually, this bond is formed with the person that respects your pet’s personal space and knows how to communicate with her. Cats want someone to play with, someone to clean and make their litter box, and they want food! Have you done all of this?
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Why And How Cats Choose A Favorite Person?
Most times, people think cats and dogs have the same traits, but they don’t. Dogs are more obedient and friendlier than cats. Felines are more independent animals. A 2015 study proves that adult cats are independent and don’t rely on their owners for security.
Scientists claim that we have not studied cats as we have studied dogs. We understand dogs’ behavior and needs better than cats. We do understand that cats are not as social as dogs, but for sure we can’t say that cats don’t care about people. Some research even shows that cats can bond as much as dogs to people. It’s all about how much attention you give them and which environment a cat was raised in.
So why do cats choose a favorite person? Cats are indoor pets, yet, they love having their personal spaces. Unfortunately, only a few cat parents understand this. So, they have a complicated relationship with their cats. As a result of this felines choose those who understand them and respect their personal spaces as their favorite people.
Scientists claim that we have not studied cats as we have studied dogs. We understand dogs’ behavior and needs better than cats. We do understand that cats are not as social as dogs, but for sure we can’t say that cats don’t care about people. Some research even shows that cats can bond as much as dogs to people. It’s all about how much attention you give them and which environment a cat was raised in.
How To Make A Cat Love You
If you want to become your cat’s favorite person, you must learn to respect her personal space. Never play with her when she’s not in the mood. Also, it is essential to spend a significant amount of time with her when you feel it needed. Imagine a situation where you are never around to play with your cat. Would you really blame the cat if she picks the husband as her favorite person? No? That’s what I thought. Try to feel your cat, understand when she wants to play and when she wants to eat, cuddle with her, clean her litter box, and not less important, give her food! Some of the cats don’t like to be picked up, some do, so do it with sensitivity. stroke your cat as it passes by, make her understand you adore her, and for sure, she will adore you back.
A personal note from my side is that I encourage you of course to do your best with your cat and I’m quite sure you’ll get the same love back, but cats are mysterious creatures and we can never really know what is going on there, so be patient, it sometimes just takes time.
Related article: “Why Are Tabby Cats So Friendly?“
Signs You Are Your Cat’s Favorite?
Felines are independent animals. However, studies have proved that they form secure bonds with their owners. And when cats love their owners, they are not subtle about their affection. It is also proven that a relationship with a cat is very stable. They will not change up their mind from day to day…Are you wondering if you are your cat’s favorite? Here some signs your cat adores you the most:
Flickering eyes
Cats love to exchange slow blinks with people they adore. You can call it a loving stare. If your cat blinks slowly at you, she certainly loves you.
Shares your bed
Remember: cats love their personal spaces. They love to sleep in their own beds, sometimes on the sofa. Yet, if you are their favorite person, they’d love to share a bed with you.
Purrs and Twitches tail around you
Also, if you are your pet’s favorite, you’d notice how she twitches her tail and purrs when you pet her. Felines only twitch their tails and purr whenever they approve of being stroked.
Other traits
Other traits cats display to people that are their favorites are kneading, clinginess, licking, headbutting, etc.
Related article: “Do Cats Dream About Their Owners?”
How Do You Tell If Your Cat Is Bonded With You?
It’s quite easy to know when a cat is bonded with you. Firstly, when cats don’t like people, they tend to draw back their ears and hiss. Sometimes, they may bite people they dislike. If your cat does none of this to you, that’s a good sign.
When cats are attached to their parents, they enjoy spending time with them. So, if your cat is bonded with you, she’d love to share a bed with you. Also, she’ll enjoy moments when you play games. A 2017 study proves that most cats would rather play with their owners than eat. If your pet behaves that way, she is definitely bonded with you.
Related article: “Are Tabby Cats Good Mousers?“
Do Cats Choose Their Owners?
Yes, cats choose their owners. Although, usually, when people decide to own a cat, they go to a pet shop and buy a cute one. But not everyone chooses their cat. For some, their pet chose them. How? Have you ever been to the pet shop and notice a cat purring at you or twitching its tail. That’s love at first sight. Cats don’t usually purr or twitch their tails to strangers. When they do, they must really admire and trust you. And if you bought the cat, she chose you and not the other way round.
If a cat ever strays to your doorstep and allows you to carry or stroke her, such a cat has chosen you. Some people believe that when cats stop at your doorstep, they are drawn to the positive energy from your hone. Others believe that it is a sign of good and positive things to come. However, these are superstitious beliefs; they have no scientific proof.
The bottom line is this: Sometimes, cats choose their owners, and when they do, you’d be able to tell.
Do Male Cats Prefer Female Owners?
The general belief is that male cats prefer female owners because they are more affectionate. Moreover, male cats love being stroked by women. Women have softer hands than men, so they enjoy the gentle rub from a woman.
Whether male cats prefer female owners has been put into the study by researchers. A study reported in an article published by DMW suggests that felines advance towards female owners more often than male owners. From this study, the probability that cats prefer female owners is really high. There is no real reason that found, just the facts: cats approached female owners more frequently than male owners and initiated contact more frequently with the female owners.
A study reported in an article published by DMW suggests that felines advance towards female owners more often than male owners. From this study, the probability that cats prefer female owners is really high. There is no real reason that found, just the facts: cats approached female owners more frequently than male owners and initiated contact more frequently with the female owners.
Final Thoughts
If your cat favors your husband, it probably means that your husband spends more time with your cat. Maybe your husband plays with her more, feed her, stroke her, and clean her litter box. No matter how busy you are with work, if you want a good relationship with your pet, it is essential to bond with it. Never leave all the responsibility of bonding with your pet to your husband. You’d miss out a lot.
Felines are adorable, and they have a shorter life span than humans. So, it’s essential to spend more time with your pet. If you’ve noticed that your cat doesn’t like spending time with you, check what you are doing wrong. Never force your pet to play when she clearly wants to be on her own.
